Reminders

I want to remind myself often that I am human, that I make mistakes - and that's okay. This list will continue to grow as I add things I want to keep handy for review.

​Choose courage over comfort.
Make Mistakes – get uncomfortable.

It's important to be vulnerable
to live in my truth
to show up as I am
​and own my story.

I cannot be brave without being vulnerable.

If I don't acknowledge my vulnerability,
I'll take my stuff out on others.  Speaking my truth means being vulnerable.

When hurt, its easy to use the vulnerability of people I love against them.  Don't.

​If I behave out of line, admit it quickly and emphatically. 
The shame and guilt of not doing so is heavy and harmful all around.

​To experience joy I need to practice:
gratitude
empathy
trust
inclusivity 
diversity
equity
​tolerance and more

​​If I want to go fast – I can go alone.
 If I want to go far – it's better to go together.

When I am feeling put out,
what is the story I am telling myself?

Remember to ask only for what I need and offer what I can.

Is my stuff a scab or a scar?​  If it's a scab - I need to work on it to allow it to heal.  Don't let the scabs pile up.

​Self Care involves
doing a joyful thing just for the hell of it!
Have I been taking time daily for self care?

Mindfulness is active attention to the present,
observing thoughts and feelings without judgement.  Am I living in the moment?

When someone triggers me emotionally, ride the wave!
Sit quietly.
What am I feeling?  Come back to the present!
What's the story I'm telling yourself?

Remember that ​shame is deeper - thoughts like "I am..." 
Guilt is more forgiving - "I can’t believe that I……."